Growing Through Pain

Today’s post is written by guest contributor, Adrienne Carwheel. Adrienne is a sign language interpreter by profession and has always created community through connections and sharing resources. More recently, she has implemented the use of essential oils and holistic health to overcome some health challenges in her family. Click HERE to learn more about her work. 

My oldest daughter came to me last year at 9 with long gangly legs and knobby knees, complaining of “growing pains.”

I used to think this was a figment of her imagination because I don’t remember it being painful for me, to grow physically. I have been 5 feet tall since the 7th grade and have resided here since then. #funsized

I gave her some natural remedies for the pain she was experiencing and I explained that sometimes pain comes with growth. Sometimes people can’t see you growing or, they will expect you to grow at a different rate.

In relationships, we often wait for others to change but become impatient with that process. We expect growth in places where people aren’t ready.

What if the lesson that continues to show up on your radar is for you? What if the character that you need to develop (patience, love, forgiveness, kindness, gentleness) is in the rub and friction that comes from being close to someone you are waiting for to change?

Often, our growth comes from pain. May I always be ready to receive the lessons that come with growth and shift my view to think of others much more graciously as they grow as well.

How have you been impatient when waiting for someone else to change? In what ways can you be more gracious to that person and to yourself during the process of growth?

Stories that Transform?

Happy New Year!

When re-branding NewSeason Books and Media last year, I was adamant that our tagline be simple yet powerful. I landed on this: “Creating Stories that Transform.” Yet, many, many times, I’ve had people ask me what that means exactly. They ask, “What does it mean to be transformed after reading a book or watching a film? Do these mediums really have that kind of power?”

I believe they do.

Words have power. Images have power. Words and images can bypass our intellectual understandings of life, of ourselves, and reach deep into our soul. This is the reason why that thing that kid said to you in sixth grade is still fresh in your mind 40 years later. This is the reason why we cry or scream or become otherwise emotionally involved with the fictional characters of our favorite TV shows. We are moved. We are changed by the stories. Those stories resonate with us in some way. Many times, they are a mirror reflecting our own stories back to us.

Stories heal. Stories change us.

That’s what we hope to do here at NewSeason Books and Media. We are small. We are under-resourced. We are growing and changing and building. But in all of that, we hope that every book you read, film or video you watch, merch you buy, event you attend will somehow bring you closer to your own story, to your authentic, beautiful, whole self.

Mark Batterson, in his 40-day prayer devotional, Draw the Circle, said it best:

The right book [story] in the right hands at the right time can save a marriage, avert a mistake, demand a decision, plant a seed, conceive a dream, solve a problem, and prompt a prayer. That’s why I write. And that’s why, for me, a book sold is not a book sold; a book sold is a prayer answered. I don’t know the name and situation of every reader, but God does, and that’s all that matters.

This is how I will lead NSBM. This will be our driving mantra for 2018. We pray you’ll join us on this journey!

Tracey

Chief Creator, New Season Books and Media

 

 

Go on an Adventure!

So listen.

2017 is coming to an end & before 2018 starts, let’s have a talk. Just us.

If you found that 2017 was the year that you still didn’t start that book you said you would…

…or you still didn’t go after that opportunity…

…or you didn’t spend any time on that project you wanted to work on…

…or you didn’t leave that toxic relationship (with him, her, your job or yourself)…

…or you didn’t start, you didn’t continue, you didn’t finish.

Do your girl a favor, ‘kay?

GO ON AN ADVENTURE in 2018!

Try something new. Attempt that thing you forgot you wanted to do. Every day do something that isn’t a part of your normal routine. Break up the monotony.

For God’s sake, HAVE.SOME.FUN.

When Jesus said, “I come that you might have LIFE, and LIFE more ABUNDANTLY,” FIGURE OUT WHAT HE MEANT BY THAT FOR YOUR LIFE & START ON THE ADVENTURE!
(Yeah, I’m screaming at you!)

Your abundant life will, for sure, look different than the person’s next to you, but PLEASE start living it.

Goals are a little too overwhelming to think about? Fine. Remember… life is more than just a series of mistakes, overwhelming moments, grinding, with only small glimmers of hope tossed in between.

Happiness, joy, and excitement aren’t reserved for the rich & IG famous. And yes, while we KNOW that (in our heads), I’m not sure we really KNOW that (in our hearts).

Life is to be enjoyed. Fulfilling purpose can be THRILLING!

Set your heart to take more risks in the year of our Lord, 2018.

Get out of the boat & walk on water.

Have an adventure!

He’s waiting.

NSB’s #TOP5Books for the Struggling Creative

So, we know.

It’s HARD out here for creatives.

Many of us want to be better at whatever it is we do but we’re constantly battling our own fears & insecurities. Some of us lack discipline & follow-through and some of us are looking to be inspired and have no idea where the muse is or where to look for it.

Did I say hard? I meant grueling!

However, we’ve found that the following books have helped us to understand who we are and HOW we can get over! Of course, this list is BY NO MEANS exhaustive. Please share with us the books YOU love!

BigMagicBIG MAGIC: Creative Living Beyond the Fear – Elizabeth Gilbert
This book came into my life at a time when I sincerely wondered if it was too late for me to BE what I thought I was only destined to watch others become. Gilbert encourages us to MAKE OUR ART (whatever that art is) and to, in turn, watch our ART, make us. She challenges us to EMBRACE that weird tight-rope we’re always walking between “inspiration” & “pragmatism”; on that rope lies our own unique creative walk.

 

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Year of Yes: How to Dance it Out, Stand in the Sun and Be Your Own Person – Shonda Rhimes
While this is Shonda’s story, this is really the story of any person (especially creatives) who finds themselves hiding–hiding who we are, hiding from those around us or hiding from the life we’re scared to lead or want. Rhimes uses humor to expose how insidious & life-altering “NO” can be if left unchecked.

 

 

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The War of Art: Break through the Block and Win Your Inner Creative Battles – Steven Pressfield
This book is a kick-in-the-arse! Pressfield challenges you to take a LONG-HARD look in the mirror & deal with the biggest enemy in the war of your art–you!

 

 

 

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Restless: Because You Were Made for More – Jennie Allen
If you’ve ever had a feeling like where you are right now is not where you are meant to be, this book is for you. Allen helps you see where that “restlessness” comes from and how your passions, gifts and even your sufferings align into a bigger picture than you could possibly imagine.

 

 

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Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life – Anne Lamott

A favorite of our Chief Creative Office, Tracey, Lamott’s memoir challenges us to break down our work (and even our lives) into manageable pieces. We don’t have to be overwhelmed by the vision we have or the purpose we feel called to fulfill. Day by day, bird by bird.

 

 

 

DON’T FORGET to leave any books that have blessed you in the comments below!

– Candace

You can do it all…I guess.

Work/Life Balance is such a buzzword nowadays. Everyone wants to figure out how to be amazing, do amazing things, all at once, across every area of their lives. Recently, someone sent me a message after the short film, The Reunion, was released and said, “Tracey, you are #goals! You’re a wife, mother, professor, writer, and now filmmaker. You can do it all!”

And while it stroked my ego a little to hear someone seemingly compliment me in this way, the real, down and dirty truth is…that’s a lie. As much as I want to, as much as I may even manufacture a persona that appears to–I can’t and don’t do it all. At least not all at the same time. And I firmly believe that the oh so elusive “work/life balance” can never be achieved in any way that is fruitful until we all come to terms with that.

We can do all that we dream, all that God has placed on our hearts—just not all at the same time. Being able to move with the ebbs and flows is a critical component for success in any area of life. In fact, the name of this company, NewSeason Books and Media, is a testament, if not reminder, of that very thing. There are seasons in our lives. There will be mountain highs and valley lows. There will be times when you must sit EVERYTHING down to tend to your family and those you love. There are times when your family will be called to sacrifice for the calling that is on your life. It’s important that you learn to grace yourself and others in all of these moments. The journey you are on will swallow you whole if you don’t.

Finding balance is really just about knowing which season God has you in and not lingering too long in one when another awaits. Even when the one that awaits you isn’t part of your original plan. There’s a current that God is using to take you to your destiny. Don’t swim against it.

Grace and Peace,

TMLG

www.traceymlewis.com

“If I am accepting a prestigious award, I am missing my baby’s first swim lesson. If I am at my daughter’s debut in her school musical, I am missing Sandra Oh’s last scene ever being filmed at Grey’s Anatomy. If I am succeeding at one, I am inevitably failing at the other. That is the tradeoff. That is the Faustian bargain one makes with the devil that comes with being a powerful working woman who is also a powerful mother. You never feel a hundred percent OK; you never get your sea legs; you are always a little nauseous. Something is always lost. Something is always missing. And yet. I want my daughters to see me and know me as a woman who works. I want that example set for them. I like how proud they are when they come to my offices and know that they come to Shondaland. There is a land and it is named after their mother. In their world, mothers run companies. In their world, mothers own Thursday nights. In their world, mothers work. And I am a better mother for it. The woman I am because I get to run Shondaland, because I get write all day, because I get to spend my days making things up, that woman is a better person—and a better mother. Because that woman is happy. That woman is fulfilled. That woman is whole. I wouldn’t want them to know the me who didn’t get to do this all day long. “ – Shonda Rhimes, Television Writer and Show Creator